Elephant,
It's easier to get out of a marriage than to get out the org, especially if one is a second or third generation witness (or is that all one generation? Not sure). In a divorce you lose half your stuff, not all of your friends and family who are in.
Your deviation from the point doesn't apply, asking me if I feel that myself or others feel controlled isn't the point. It is a red herring.
But to answer the question (again) EVERYONE who is involved with the org is controlled. Some like the control, some are actually unaware!
Many of us here have read some great books and information about controlling groups and people. Personally I have read Combatting Cult Mind Control and am partway into Freedom of Mind. I would recommend either to you if you would like more information.
On day I told my wife that I really don't like the control the org puts on people. She adamantly disagrees that it's controlling at all! Yeah we still have more work to do. This illustrates the point that many people read articles like this, automatically agree because it comes from Jehovah himself the WT and actually believe they have 100% free will.